My Take on Chris Brown

First of all I’d like to give a shout out to his fans #teambreezy..they really go hard for him..and it goes to show that regardless of the mistakes you make in life..there will always be people that still love and support you..so for that..I tip my hat off to you all……BUT at the same token..he as well as the fans /supporters need to realize that you cannot blame the media..and I say this because chris has not been the first to be bombarded with questions of his past mistakes nor will he be the last..its what they do..they make a living off of this..I don’t say it with great joy but its gonna follow him..watching the good morning america interview was a trip bc..its like..robin wasn’t being malicious..she was basically doing her job..his reaction though..I felt sorry for him bc he was basically making himself an easier target..yes you have your interviewers who care deeply for you and won’t put you in that awkward spot..but you also have those that don’t give a damn about his or anybody elses feelings and will ask you up front..I feel like he needs a better support system..who won’t baby’fy him..that come to him in love but also in truth..I think its a beautiful thing to have people that fight for you regardless of what you do..but quite frankly..its been used as a crutch..its hurting him more than helping him..you can’t just let it go..now I’ve never been a victim of domestic violence..but I can look at situations from various angles without being bias..what about the fans..that have been abused..chris as well as rihanna could be such positive advocates..yes it was a tragic event but its so common..ppl need help..why not go out and talk to the people..beat the media to the punch..all while letting the healing process take place..that situation..as unfortunate as it was..can be turned around into something so brilliant..so influential..and they can reach countless numbers..touching the lives of those who feel like there’s no hope..yes it is a sensitive subject..but this is a reality for people these days..stop trying to let it go and speak up! That’s the problem..it won’t go away so embrace it for what was but don’t let it define who you are..yes he is human..but that saying to me is like an excuse..we all are human..that goes without saying..he as well as rihanna have a public outlet that I feel can be taken advantage of to raise awareness and help ppl overcome..needless to say..I wish them both the best..

un-foolish........

this is for the one..who wised up..here's to the one that opened their eyes to the truth..this one is for those not afraid to pour their heart and soul out in the midst of a world full of criticism..this goes out..to you..for using wisdom......thank you

My Thoughts..My Theory

im a quiet person by nature..very soft spoken unless i have a reason to speak up or i just feel the need to really be heard. ppl tend to think that being meek equals weakness but its actually strength under control..so anyways within the last few weeks i had to deal with ppl talking about me..saying things loud enough to where i can hear it but they knew they had the right one bc i wont comment on it unless spoken to directly.. i was getting frustrated bc i knew i wasnt wrong..and if i was i could own up to it with no problem..this is when i heard the voice of the Lord telling me to not say anything..just pray for them..to continue to walk in love bc just like ill reap what i sow..they will as well..so i did..then i thought about it..youre not supposed to ever put your mouth on a child of God..period..then i waited bc i knew it was coming..I asked God to have mercy on them bc they had no clue what position they put themselves in..

then it all it the fan..

the Lord will reveal to you things to come..and i saw it plain as day..the same ones gossiping about me turned on each other..all i could do was shake my head..arguments..pettiness..more lies..ppl getting "found out"..its just a mess..i try my best to continue to pray for them though bc some situations go a whole lot deeper and way too personal..some very abusive..verbal and physical..ill say this too though..God still reveals so while theyre telling lies to keep from being embarrassed by the truth..i know the deal before they finish off the "story"..

so now..im the go-to person..let me go to D. bc i know she wont talk about me like the rest do..let me spark up a convo now so if whenver im feeling the heat..i can run to her..

i dont mind it though..it doesnt bother me like it used to bc i dont take it personal..but ive realized that for one..they know who and who not to step to incorrectly which proves to me that they arent as bold as they claim to be..if you have to talk mess in front of a crowd..but once theyre gone youre as humble as a lamb..i can see that..around certain people you wont dare pop off bc they'd have no problem bringing you back to reality..i see that too..my heart is starting to go out to them bc i have peace in my life..i sleep wonderful..i have positive people im my household..i know nothing about getting cursed out..i dont know about spousal abuse..my parents have been together for 24 years..and happy..ive had my issues but nothing to the extreme..and this is very well known..so its like if i cant match her lifestyle..ill try to make her days here at work rough..but theyve failed at that as well..

one thing im working on is the part in the scripture that says "love pays no attention to a suffered wrong"..im getting better at it..not all the way there YET lol..but im managing..

i guess thats it for now..and ill try to update more often..so...until next time...

Know Your Worth

i was watching joel osteen last night and he opened my eyes to some things...his message was based on knowing your worth..

we sometimes tend to put our worth..or value in opinions of other people, in what we have, in our looks, in our achievements and/or disappointments..these are just trivial things..so imagine what happens if someone says something to put you down..or later own down the line your life isnt "what it should have been"

you notice how something negative always seems to speak louder in our minds? its time for us to take control of our thoughts and understand our worth.

take a crisp &100 bill..its value is what? $100 right?????

but what if i ball it up..whats the value?

or what if i place it in front of my car and run over it..put the car in reverse and go over it again..whats the value of it?

what if i grabbed a fist full of dirt and covered the bill with it from from to back..whats the value of that dollar? STILL $100 correct?

no matter if ppl ran over you..drug your name through the mud countless times..your value remains the same but its all up to you to realize that...God handpicked YOU for a reason...yea sure you might not be tall enough but youre just right in His eyes..you may not think youre pretty/handsome enough..but youre beautiful in His eyes..He made you in his image..maybe you arent where you could be in life..He's willing to show you how to get there if you give him a chance..

stop letting negative things cloud your mind and hinder you from being your best..

we all have things we need to work on..but one of the main things is seeing our worth for what it is which is not our parents, friends, co-workers, children, or anybody elses eyes..but God..you are His favorite..only God can have each and every one of us as favorite and love us unconditionally, not picking one over the other based on achievements, status, looks, degree, finance or what have you..

I encourage you all to have another outlook on your life..know your worth and act up on it..there is no one else like you..there will be no one else that comes close to doing what you do..do not let fear of rejection/being talked about stop you from anything..be more conscious of God with you than people coming against you..renew your minds!!!!! ask Him to help you take control of your emotions..pray for wisdom..no matter what..stay positive..keep a good attitude and show LOVE..itll only work out for your benefit..

My Honeybun Cake Recipe

i made it last night and everybody loved it..im making it again now..anywho..it doesnt take much and its sooooo good..in your free time..try it out

1 box of yellow cake mix (any brand)

8 ounce(1 container) sour cream

4 eggs

3/4 cup vegetable oil (maybe alittle more if you'd like)

4 tbs milk

1 tbs vanilla extract

1 tbs of ground cinnamon

1 cup brown sugar

2 cup confectioners sugar

Preheat the oven to 325...in a big bowl mix up the cake mix, the oil, the sour cream and the eggs..stir it up until the majority of the large lumps are gone...ooooh dont forget to grease *whatever* youre gonna put it in..long pan..the cake thingy with the part that makes the hole in the middle (bundt lol duh)..pam does fine..after youve stirred it up real good and the bundt is greased..put HALF of the batter in it..what you do now is mix up your brown sugar and cinnamon (you can do it in the measuring cup)..make sure its blended well and pour half of it in the batter..then mix it up..once its mixed real good..you can add the other half of the batter and do the same with the last bit of your brown sugar and cinnamon..mix it up good..put it in the oven for about 45 minutes or until the toothpick comes out clean

Frosting

Take your milk sugar and vanilla extract..put it in a bowl and mix it..you can put it in the frig until the cake is done or make it after you take the cake out of the oven..be sure to put it on while its still hot though..

*Sidenote* I put an extra couple tbs of milk in mine..i didnt want it as thick..you can tweak it however you like though..

Enjoy!!!

Health Awareness

i know some people are like..whats the "brighter side" to getting sick..well..for me..it brought me closer to my bible..which is where i should have been all along..and with THAT being said..from reading it..ive gotten the advice i needed..from not only the word but from my dad..first of all..losing that weight..i dont see it as a terrible thing now..i know that what i gain will be from "healthier" foods..my goal is to stick with my water way more and the juices..but moreso the water..the pounds will come back in no time but im going to start my exercise up again so it wont turn into fat..the pilates and the yoga especially..maybe had i not stopped..i wouldnt have this problem with my neck or my back..ive come across some other ways or natural "cures" to help me out..as i experiment...ill keep everything documented..thought it shouldnt have taken me to get alittle under the weather to get a jump start on a healthier living..what better time to do so than now..

sunday "health scare" ..tuesday health awareness

so sunday..everything started off normal..went to church..came home..ate..relaxed..i even did my nails..as a matter of fact..i made it to work atleast 15 minutes ahead of time and got a round of applause lol..everything was going great until around 6..i started feeling tired just randomly..so im like no..i need to have a seat..i did what i needed to do and when everything got slow i told my manager i was going to sit out in the lobby where its cool..i sat there for awhile thinking that maybe i just got too hot and needed to cool off..more time passed and i noticed my hands began to shake and im still hot with this urge to sit down and take a load off..i pushed through and kept taking my orders until i just out of the blue i felt the tears coming to my eyes..not sure of why im crying but i let my manager know i needed to go to the restroom..im trying to catch my breath and figure out exactly why the tears are falling because i actually wasnt in any pain...i was sitting on the floor because i just felt too lazy to stand and i tried to regain everything back..after maybe 10 minutes i came back..i made the decision to not drive home so i called my mom and told her what was up..i did plan on working my full shift but i thought it would be wise to let them pick me up and one of them drive my car..about 5 minutes later..it hit me again..and this time way harder..i was literally gasping for air..i think the tears came from a possible shock..because like i said..i was in NO pain..i just couldnt catch my breath so it bugged me out..my manager came in and found me on the floor in tears so she took me outside then i called my aunt but she'd spoken with my mom and was on the way to get me..man..i was breathing just..crazy..dehydration is a TRIP..thats pretty much all it was..i got some liquids in me..so yesterday i was just drowsy..i slept the majority of the day..i stepped on the scale a few days ago and noticed i dropped from 117 to 112 and then yesterday to 111..which is very visible if my dad (of all people) pointed it out..so last night..i had like this pain from my lower neck and the upper right part of my back..where it came from..i have no idea but i couldnt sleep like i wanted to..today was much better..i got up out of the bed..i sat outside..my mom brought me some pain medicine but i still feel it so im not sure whats up with that..im actually on my sisters laptop in my room (in my bed) because Lord knows im not trying to sit at that computer..im going to cut this post short so i can get in into my next one on how im using this to my benefit...

Just Another Rant..

now yall know domi love the kids but man..these attitudes are NOT cute...i work as a substitute and ive seen some..stuff..taking a look at the parents..i understood..i was in a position where i worked as a secretary for a couple months..ive seen fights..parents and teachers going back and forth..i knew the kids well enough to know what happened before the parents got to the school and to my amazement..these parents were upholding their kids in ALL their wrong..my mom knew off top that if a teacher called the house..whatever they said i did..she knew it was true..

it was my second day as a sub and i had i think it was a 4th grade class..it was pretty small so i was good..so were lining up to go to recess when this girl calls another student a b****...im close enough by to where i heard it for myself and then all the kids was like ooooooooohhhhh...so i had to pause for a second like..did she say..*looks at the child* girl did you say what i think u said..she told me yes..now i gotta send somebody to the office my 2nd day..smh..somehow there was a mix up and the lady in the office told me her mom wanted to speak to me..man..the convo i had with this lady FREAKED me out..like..how simple can you be..some people dont need to have kids man..i put that on everything i love..this lady was like i understand the situation but i dont think my child said that..maybe the kids heard wrong..theyre always picking on her..blah blah blah..im like no ma'am..i heard her myself..she said the word..and when i asked her to confirm it she told me yes she did say it..so this lady goes on talking about how her child doesnt talk like that at home *pause* on a serious tip..THATS WHEN YOU DO YOUR DIRT..AWAY FROM HOME!!!! especially at school..thats your opportunity to show out in front of your little friends..and i told her that..using myself as an example so i wouldnt come off too harsh..and then shes like well im thinking about taking my child from the school because its always something either with the kids or with the teachers..im like okay..first of all *not to her* common sense should have kicked in..im only the SUB..this is my 2nd day on the job..i dont know your kid from the next so its impossible for me to pinpoint her and just make something up..that just really..idk..it did something to me..like with the way the child talked to her mom when i have her the phone..and for her to just allow it..that bothers me..

i personally feel that if you do not discipline your child..you dont love them..atleast not as much as you claim/think you do..people in this world are VERY cruel..school kids are even worse..why would you set them up like that..a lot of the kids with the attitude problems arent very well liked and im telling you what i know because i havent been out of school for that long to have forgotten..these teachers have it so hard man..to deal with that from 7 30 to 3..go home..deal with their family..homework..lesson plans...and then start the whole process over again..thats tough..and typically theres more than 1 in the class..i stand by the fact that the highest paid profession should be in whatever category of a teacher...just the attitudes alone should be a few grands extra..

My Thoughts On Michael Jackson & Dr. Murray

first of all..i love me some michael..but that was extremely careless on his part to even request that sort of medicine knowing full well that its supposed to only be used in hospitals..so in some ways..he is responsible for his own death..he used his "fame" to his advantage..him being mj could ask for whatever he wanted and knew it would be given to him at any cost..i do believe he knew full well what he was doing and didnt have to look far to find what he was looking for..but it was dr. conrad murray who should have known better..his medical license should be stripped away from him..do i think he needs to spend the rest of his life behind bars?? no..but he definitely should spend sometime there..i dont think his intentions were to kill him but i do believe that he knew the consequences and tried to take as many precautions as he could but we all know the ending results thereof..

R.I.P Michael..you will truly be missed..

What is Success?

suc⋅cess⋅ful

[suhk-ses-fuhl]

–adjective

1.	achieving or having achieved success.

2.	having attained wealth, position, honors, or the like.

3.	resulting in or attended with success.

People think that if you have money, lots of friends, clothes, jewelry, or whatever, that qualifies them as being successful. Sadly enough, thats the biggest lie ever told. The greater majority of those people that have these trivial things are the main ones that when its all said and done..are still missing something but for the life of them cant figure out what it is..

REAL success is having a peace of mind..being in your RIGHT mind..having true happiness that cannot be faked..having loving people around you that wont try to take advantage of you..having the proper relationships with family and friends..money obtained legally through hard work on top of additional blessing from God.

(Josh 1:8) - the key to success the right way...

God is GREAT lol

ive been seeking him and the answers to my problems have become so clear..honestly..it was always right dead SMACK in my face but I was so blinded to it..ive been saying my Ephesians prayers pretty regularly and the results have been AMAZING...i just got a letter from the secretary of state with a LOT of information i need to start up my business as far as permits and licenses...this is something i should have done a VERY long time ago but then again..a long time ago..i wouldnt have been prepared...shout out to Trey Songz too..his latest album entitled "Ready" means so much more to me now..im getting ready for a lot of changes in my life..not only myself but many others around me..i just love the fact that his album has THAT title and is coming out at this point in my life...i wont be like others and hog all the information..i have NO problem sharing...as i take this journey to the top..id love for you all to come with me..here in this blog i will be posting information on what you can do to make your dreams come true..

before i start off though..the MAIN thing you have to do is always always ALWAYS put and keep God first...it wont work the way it could if you do not..He has a lot in store for us..Im reaping the benefits now and He gets all the credit because i have enough sense to know that i wouldnt be where i am if it was not for him..

Im Back..Finally

I wont even lie...ive slipped on my exercising but my intake of water has been really good..

anyways..im starting to figure out that ive got to stop making excuses for some things..i should be way ahead of my game right now...be it fear or whatever..its time out for it..sorry this entry is short but hey..i cant think of anything else to say right now..lol

Thinking About My Life

Im realizing now that I am where I am because of me..man..God is so good..do you ever just think sometimes..why does He even bother with me..I do some of the craziest things..even when i know better..and feel like a DOG when looking back on it..what did He ever do to me to make me not want to fully serve Him..

I have so much peace in my life..I sleep great..Im not a worrier..I thank God for allowing me to see first hand who my real friends are NOW instead of me struggling to figuring it out down the road..I still live with my parents..theyre giving me the opportunity to save money and get myself together before I decide to move out...theyve been married for 23 years..Ive never seen verbal, physical, or sexual abuse in my home..I was brought up in the church..I honestly have so much knowledge alone spiritually I could write a book..books actually..I live in a good neighborhood..I have a pretty good job..no kids..no HUGE responsibilities..no "man" issues..no relationship..no stress..im not constantly thinking about who's out to get me for what I have..

Have I been taking advantage of all of this..no..I thank God for bringing it to my attention that I need to set up a blog because I can get a lot off my chest and actually sit and read my innermost thoughts..I dont know...its not enough for people to tell me or me to think about it..just seeing it in words does so much more..

God put me on this earth for a reason..im getting there..I know that apart of my purpose is to do GREAT things with my life to inspire and help others..I am blessed beyond measure with what I have already...and I pray that everytime someone reads my blog it encourages them to do better for themselves...Its time out for being lazy..make some big moves..no time for the games or the setbacks..enough of watching others live their dreams..its time to do me..and you need to do you..forget what others might say or how they feel about it..let go of the dream killers or if it isnt that easy to let go...use them as motivation..

R.T.B.H (update)

Tuesday I went to the gym early..I didnt stay on the treadmill too long..I think I did about 20 or so minutes but I got a well rounded workout none the less...i had about a good 45 minutes to myself in there so I was able to take full advantage of it...I'll post pics of the machines I use..sooner or later..

I still need to drink waaaaaaaaaaaay more water...for the remainder of the summer Ill try my best to stay away from the cold drinks..a new fav. of mine is Fuze Green Tea/Black and Green Tea...im also starting to like that vitamin water..so between those drinks..some regular fasting (not just for the body but for the spirit as well)...Ill be in pretty good shape..

Anyways..I didnt go yesterday because my muscles were..well..they werent aching but..i dont know how to describe it..I was going to go today but there was a change of plans..what I will do though is pop in my pilates dvd..I know I have Yoga and Tae Bo here too but Im not really that into it..maybe later on in the summer depending on how I feel..

Ready To Be Healthy (update)

so today i got up early..made it to the gym around 10ish..i was the first one to pull up..makes me wish i got there a few minutes ahead of time and i wouldve had it to myself..but people started to show up after i got in..anyways...my original plan was to do 45 minutes..about 15 in i was like..ya know what..dont worry about it..ill just do 35 (lol)...tell me why im watching the view and start tweeting from the treadmill and found some of my people were watching it too...thanx to sb and sammie getting me hype i did 49 minute!!!!

after that went off i got on the leg push thingy..(ill find out the name tomorrow) and did a few reps on 70lbs...lol tell me why this guy got on after i got off and changed it to 50..he could barely do that so of course im cracking UP on the inside..like dude..man up..seriously..lol

anywho..today was a good day..drank a couple bottles of water..i know i should have gotten more than that..i need to try to kick it up a notch and step my game up..

Random Thought

since the love of money is the root of all evil..one of the hardest lessons to learn in life is that people youve known all your life..be it friends OR family...will scheme to get money from you...years of knowing each other means nothing...thats a lesson i had to learn just here lately but the fact still remains that God supplies all my needs and if this person thought they were getting over on me and I just have a blind eye to whats going on..they have another thing coming...honestly..i will let it go...i wont even bring it up again..some people may think its crazy...the way i see it is that you reap what you sow...you may have thought you were doing something and will never get caught but God knows and sees all things...lol funny thing about it is if i REALLY wanted to get it back..i can..i may have went into the situation ignorant of what was going on..i didnt bother to collect a receipt (why??) because i was so trusting...funny..i actually have proof now and they dont even realize it..will i use it against them..no..theyre lucky it was me and not somebody else though..everybody isnt very forgiving...i am taking this as a lesson learned because nothing has happened to me like this before...you know how you always hear people talking about it and its not the fact that you dont think it will ever happen to you..its just that it just never crosses your mind until it DOES happen..experience is the best teacher..but its a shame this person lost out on a friend like me...

words to the wise...if anybody asks you for money..be it family or so called friend...this is the way you find out if they plan on paying you back or not...tell them "yea sure you can borrow whatever you like but i need you to sign this document first..stating the amount and when youre going to pay me back" lol...now if they say okay no problem and sign it with no hesitation..by all means..if you can..go ahead and loan it to them..but if they look at you craaaaazy crazy and say "uh nevermind"...lol you already know what you wouldve been dealing with..

Ready To Be Healthy

okay so my tsmb girls along with myself are on a mission to get in shape...obviously for health reasons..a number of us have banned together and are in the process of getting in/back in the gym..buying fitness dvd (lol) and doing whatever we can to be healthy..of course exercising is just one part of it..you must eat right or else whats the point...anyways i will be doing very frequent updates on how im doing..i may even post some before and after pics..maybe (lol)..but aside from that i will also be posting tips on what you can do to make this process a very easy one...sooooo stay tuned :)

Random Thoughts

why is common sense not so common these days...i shake my head at a lot of the things going on in the world...its a known fact that we are born into a place of problems/trials and so forth already...why would you willingly add on to the ones that are already promised to you

A Message to the Cheater

today a girl that i follow on twitter posted this link to a comment this guy left her..even though it was VERY long lol..one of the things that stuck out was when he said "cheating is the most immature thing you can do in a relationship"...if youre going to mess around..why not just leave that person and let them be with someone who will remain faithful if you wont...why play mind games...it does not make you a "real man" when you strive to see how many women you can handle...a real man has self control...thats really what it boils down to...ladies ladies ladies...that whole double standard thing is getting extremely tired.."if a man cheats its okay but if i do it im a hoe"...take it how you want it..that still doesnt make it right...i was in this video chat with a "celebrity"...he was kind enough to take the time out and talk to his fans..the topic of cheating came up and one of the ladies asked why do men cheat... he goes on to talk about how what one woman lacks..if she doesnt step it up and a new chick comes along with that "said quality"...a man(not necessarily him) is bound to cheat..which i thought was so stupid lol...this was when the 80/20 rule was brought up..*why did i get married*..in a relationship you are going to only get atleast 80% of what you need..but here comes this person with the other 20 and you think youre doing something because you "got what you were missing"..which 9 times out of 10 you realize that it wasnt even worth it and in some cases it may be too late...why establish a relationship when sometimes going INTO it you know you arent going to do right by them...its too much going around to be bed hopping...why put yourself in a place where youd fall into temptation and you know youre going to regret it later...at the end of the day..it all comes down to self control

The Purpose of Domi's Theory

i decided to create this blog for the simple fact that i have a lot to say...but since im naturally a soft spoken person, ive always found an outlet in "typing out" my thoughts for the simple fact that i can get my point across and go details without being interrupted and sidetracked..if that makes sense...here you will find mostly my opinions, a lot of God-given truths, and just random thoughts that i may have...i welcome all comments as long as they remain respectful...with that being said..i hope you all enjoy my blog...